I think we've raised in the belief that we need to find that person that somehow we will complete and complement what we lack. That person you share the rest of our life, with which we will be happy and will no longer be two halves if not one, because in the end "we have found our soul mate."
This is something we hear from small, in the stories, especially, shows how the princess finally found the man and woman are married and happily ever after forever.
sounds great but the reality is very different and without realizing we create more suffering, totally unnecessary, seeing that we achieve this ideal we have in our mind.
As always the solution lies in the problem itself, however, seems not so popular question beliefs that are rooted in us, we as true without thinking how far are true and above all, how much benefit we and contribute to our happiness.
dedicate our lives to look for that perfect match gives us something that until then had, and then to maintain that relationship at all costs creating dependency sometimes unhealthy because if we lose, it seems that we cease to exist, we become imperfect, something we lack, our life is meaningless ...
From my point of view there is a difference between loving someone and feel happiness and joy to share your life with her and feel that your life has meaning because of the presence of this person in it and if needed you die.
I think many people would agree that the second option is not healthy, especially, because if your happiness depends on the presence or absence of a partner or what I do or not do, you're doomed to continued suffering.
For me I am too a whole orange and I have the joy of sharing my life with a wonderful human being as is my husband. His presence in my life it is worth much more worthwhile to be lived and that enjoy and savor, it also gives me the opportunity to grow and learn while still in relationship with him as with other people but I'm not an incomplete being who became a whole lot to marry.
is very easy to create dependencies with people and not just the couple, sometimes we confuse our desire to be express and share with someone with dependence, but this basically means the imperative to be with that person because if you feel that you die . For this unfortunately kept many stormy relationships.
As said earlier, the solution is in trouble, when you change that belief and see that you are the center, you have a state of unchanging peace within yourself no matter what happens outside, when look and see that everything outside is changing continuously and therefore temporary, and it can not hold or control, you fall in some way to savor every moment you share with your partner from love and from freedom, but above all, loving yourself, feeling full and harmony forever.
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